uhh i dont know where to even start. when my husband hurts my feelings, he doesnt care. he seriously doesnt give a thought to it. im sick of it. i try communicating with him the best i can and it means nothing to him, but he sure as hell will let me know when im doing a bad job explaining to him how i feel. he will say he doesnt know how to talk to him and he will ask me to help but then when i try he feels all attacked. i cant win.
example:: (true story)
me: why dont we ever sex anymore? i know ive brought this up a million times, but nothing changes and you make me feel like theres something wrong with me.
LONGGGG silence follows
him: you really want to know?
him: i would want to have sex with you, if i found you more sexually appealling.
me (heart currently resting on the floor): like how?
him: like how?
him: if you weighed less.
INSERT background story here:
when i met him i weighed like 135ish and then slowly i started putting on weight from all the drinking and party and not eating healthy or working out . i weight about 160 when we got pregnant with our daughter and then at delivery i was 208
(yuck). a few weeks after giving birth i weight about 169, and i thought i was doing good but i just sorta stopped doing anything to help my weight lost so i gained some back, would lose some gain it back that whole deal.
this conversation has happened about 4 times in the last year. and im now really trying to lose weight (for myself) and it just seems like i cant get over him saying that. and he doesnt think theres anything wrong with him feeling that way or telling me. he thinks i need to quit crying about it and do something.
at this point i am: working out and watching what i eat. he is helping support me by: letting my daughter climbing all over me as im wor